Dating Red Flags

You are a smart can spot the unscrupulous and deceitful person. They betray themselves with inconsistency and unexplainable behavior. You should be concerned if your date does any of the following without providing an acceptable explanation:
  • Frequently disappears and becomes unreachable by phone or email
  • Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, and so on
  • Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy
  • Refuses to give you a home number and only calls you from work. (They could be married, have a live in lover, have a significant other and are looking for their next conquest before ending that relationship).
  • Doesn't provide direct answers to direct questions
  • Appears in person to be significantly different from his or her online persona
  • Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members
Be responsible and trustworthy yourself. Some say that the lines between honesty, exaggeration and deception have blurred, especially in print personals and online dating. Is it a crime to represent yourself as a few years younger, especially when your friends frequently comment that you don't look your age? Has thinning hair become a euphemism for bald? If we want to hear the truth, we must start by telling the truth, even when it isn't easy or advantageous. And we must conduct ourselves and our romances in a responsible manner. Don't fall in love at the click of a mouse. Don't become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. Live by standards of honesty and decency. Let the buck stop with you.