Everybody loses his or her temper now and then. There’s nothing wrong with feeling angry. Stressful situations, bad events, misunderstandings – they happen. You lose your cool, and soon it’s over. Anger can be triggered by many things including:
Your personality. You may be someone who feels your emotions intensely or tends to act impulsively or lose control. Recognizing this can help you manage it.
Your role models. If the people you’ve grown up with or live with are short-tempered, you might be used to blow-ups. You may not even realize that not everybody gets mad like the people in your household! Recognizing this can help you decide if you would like to make a different choice.
Is Your Anger Normal or a Problem?
Asking yourself a few questions and considering your situation can help you decide if your anger could be a bigger problem that you’d like to solve.
Unresolved emotion (conscious or unconscious) from past trauma or pain can be a powerful trigger. If you think (or are told) that you have an anger problem, talk to a trusted adult: a parent, counselor, or any adult with whom you feel safe and can share openly.
Self awareness + Self control = Healthy anger management!